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LOVE MAKING POSITIONS

Even love making positions have a tradition.

Due to a lack of imagination, poor physical shape, sexual response (especially in men) and being afraid that you will not enjoy new positions, the man on top position is the most common love making position.
Malinowski said that it was called the missionary position and this name came from aborigines from the Trobiand Islands in Polynesia. They named it this because they were surprised that the missionaries, who came to their islands and who were very open to the sexuality of the population and much more imaginative than the aborigines, always made love in the same position, unlike themselves. It must be said, however, that it is practical, comfortable for the woman, it allows for the bodies and eyes to make contact and it is comfortable and easy for the man. What is more, it allows for complete intercourse even when the penis is not fully erect and it lets the man have a lot of control over coital movements. In antique times, people believed that the missionary position was the best position for fertilising and this may be why it has become the most common position. Technically though, it is not that pleasurable for the woman since the G-spot cannot be stimulated from this position: the G-spot, which is no more than the embryonic remains of a prostate gland, is located on the anterior wall of the vagina, two-thirds of the way up, thus it is difficult to stimulate it in this position.

Another common position is the opposite: woman on top. This position is also known as the amazon position or the Pompeian position, since it is depicted in some frescoes in Pompeii, and in more recent times it has been called the ‘tired hero’, for obvious reasons. It requires the woman to be comfortable with exposing herself and playing a dominant role in the sexual relations, and it can be even more pleasurable for the woman if she leans forward as this position stimulates the clitoris. It allows for a good level of eye and body contact and for touching one another. This position was the most common position used by the Greeks and Romans because, in these times, men wanted to be comfortable during sex and make little effort.

The third, most traditional position is with the woman on all fours and the man behind. It was called the ‘elephant’ amongst African populations, the ‘regal’ position amongst sailors at sea, the ‘praying position’ by the Romans, the ‘omega’ by the Greeks and, in more recent times, it has been called the ‘doggy’ position. If you observe the instinctive feelings that this position expresses, it could be said that it is the most natural: the male is in a dominating position and benefits from increased erotic stimulation, whilst the woman is also stimulated, even if it does not go along with her erotic fantasies. However, it does allow the woman to have her G-spot stimulated and therefore it is a very pleasurable position. It does not allow for eye contact though, and it is not very intimate given that the man has to pull out of the woman and change position if they want to lye together after..

Another position, which is slightly harder to do, involves both partners lying on their sides, face to face. The Greeks called this position ‘theta’, the Romans the ‘prandial’, given the resemblance to the position they took up on the triclinium during lunch, and the Eastern populations called it the most tender name: the third moon. Both people have to be quite slim and the male has to have a good erection and the woman has to be quite flexible. The writer Martial imagined that Daphnis and Chloe coupled in this way, showing that it is more suitable for young couples. The intimacy is very intense and the couples’ faces, like their bodies, are very close to one another and their hands are free to explore each other’s body. There is no abuse of power from one person or the other in this position, and, since the vagina is tighter in this position, it can be very pleasurable for the woman.

For those who want to practise more exciting and acrobatic positions, try the position in which the man stands up and holds the woman; the woman needs to put her legs around the man’s waist and put her arms around his neck. Africans called this the ‘palm tree’ position but it has also had many other names; for instance, the royal tree, the column, the pendant and the star by the Japanese. It is best if the woman is light and this may explain why the first people to practise it were indeed the Japanese. The man must have a very good erection and the woman must be very lubricated. It may be done slowly and it can last a long time, especially given that it is quite tiring for the man. This position is very intimate and men who are strong, muscular and resistant are normally particularly good at this position, as are light, agile and graceful females.

Another fairly acrobatic position is that known as the ‘acrobat’, but more for the variants of it rather than the position itself. The classic position involves the woman lying on her back with her legs bent up to her stomach so the pelvis is slightly tilted upwards and the vaginal lips are well exposed. The man then gets on his knees, but keeping his torso up right, so that his pelvis is in line with hers and so that he can pull on her pelvis, and he can even take her ankles and put them on his shoulders. This position requires gentle penetration but it does not allow for touching one another since the man has to hold onto the woman’s legs to keep her close to him. Eye contact is possible though and the woman may be stimulated more intensely given that her thighs are very close together.


A variant of this position involves the woman lying down on her back with her legs pointing upwards and the man standing up holding up her legs. Then, if the man pulls her legs towards him he will find the right position to be able to penetrate her.
These are just a few positions which mainly originate from oriental cultures and which are rich in creativity and pleasure. It must be said, however, that creativity and pleasure are two assets that must be learnt and mastered over time.

LOVE MAKING POSITIONS

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